List of phrases that can not speak for women

Dear men, I beg not to be offended! Do not knock yourself butted in the chest, saying: "Yes, I never ...», or" Yes, she is guilty ...», or "What can I do if she really like this ...». This article is written not to show you what you are bad. Moreover, I am sure that you really - very, very good. But maybe this article will help you a little better understanding of women. And your life will be happier and more harmonious.
So, what do not need to say a woman ...

"My mom makes the best" - mom better roasts chops, she better get salad, it is better than stroking his shirt and pants when she stroked, the needle does not diverge for weeks ... Cleaning the same apartment in my mother's performance - a song, and after its completion can not find a speck of dust, even in the darkest corner.



Instead of mom as an example sometimes cited sister, friend, ex-wife (honestly, this also happens!), The first school love ( "she sang, my heart froze as much") and so on. But more often it is better to make mom. And "my mom does best" - one of the worst phrases that kill the joy of family life.



This - the call for competition, which can not be won by definition. After all, children's performances differ uncritical and very firmly in the memory. Son may not remember that his mother did not know how to marinate mushrooms, but the wife - an excellent job with this task. It may simply discard the fact that his mother worked as a secretary part-time, while his wife took a senior position in a large company.



No, it does not call for criticism of parents. Never! I readily believe that my mother really does better. Especially if mom is her husband. But always tell my wife that she always makes everything worse - not the best way to achieve happiness in family life. Exhausted like a lose-lose competition, the wife may one day not to declare his darling: "If your mother does everything better, then go ka-you to her."



And then, my wife also has a mother. I can start arm wrestling: "My mom never added the minced garlic in!" - "And my mother said that garlic is useful for health, so it should add all the dishes!" Stalemate. And if at first "tug of war" is laughable, then over time it can lead to very serious problems of family relationships.



"Finally you're dressed in something decent!" - These phrases are not a rarity. I know a man who constantly tells his wife that she absolutely does not know how to dress. All his friends, he told me that his wife buys cheap clothes, which would seem to shy people milkmaid from a deaf, poor farm. "If I did not buy her clothes, it would be impossible to go near the street" - he said. The case ended in divorce.



If you are uttering such a phrase, want to make a woman a compliment, remember - this is not praise. This implies that before she dressed disgusting, and suddenly, by some chance, she finally managed to find a more or less decent clothes.

"When I took care of you, you were so beautiful!" - A phrase clearly indicates that the former beauty long gone. And what has come to replace ... eyes were not looking. This is - sorry about the past and lament the future. So remember an old anecdote: a woman about 45 early in the morning examining her face in the mirror. Seeing the wrinkles, bags under his eyes, looks back on her sleeping husband and angrily said: "So you fool, and we must!".



There are those who try to explain that yes, say something similar, but only to say, my wife something nice. That does not have such a "pleasant"! Why not say: "I look at you and admire: you are still 20!". Or: "When I took care of you, you were so beautiful, and has not changed!". Agree, is another matter.



"Where's dinner?" - A variant: "Why still do not wash your underwear?", "How long will I wait ironed shirt?". More offensive than it sounds just like when a woman at the hands of children, her own work, and she still has a house that is on it and washing and cooking, and cleaning. The man is extremely busy with their own work.



Instead of filing claims, you can easily understand - why the wife did not have time to do something. If the matter is that she does not know how to do it (and also happens like this, especially in young families), you should send it to the courses, at least to my mother. Crick and the requirements of the issue is not solved. If the problem is that it simply is loaded beyond measure, it is worth it to help and not to declare: "All reason enough time, one you never have time you can do.



"Where are you slipped my tie?" - A variant: a pack of cigarettes, a pen, a hammer, goggles, your favorite shirt ... Such a question immediately shows that the man at home doing nothing, just do not know where that lies. It only requires that cared for him. In the house he - as in a hotel where a maid, waiter, bringing order breakfast (room-service), there is a laundry, which is given to wash clothes ... However, the entire staff in one person, but it is even convenient - no need to go far to bring the claim. A little more, and he will leave his wife for tea.



Dear men, before angrily interest in his wife, which she tucked a hammer, think - and why it is generally touched before the hammer? After all, a hammer, in theory, men's work. Does not your fault that the hammer did not find it?



"What are you, stupid?" - Instead of answering any question. As kind: "What are you in the know", "none of your business", "Shut up, when not asked," Do not disgrace me in front of people. "



Actually, no one is obliged to know everything. And even if asked a question whose answer seems obvious to you, not the fact that it is equally obvious to others. Therefore, such a statement is "boorish vulgaris", ie, boorish ordinary, uncomplicated, and - most importantly - unnecessary.



Possible another option. It - really stupid. Happens. But what of that? Hence, it has attractions other than the intellect. For something a man guided by, offering her hand and heart. And, accusing it of stupidity, he primarily blames himself. If it's stupid, then who is he?



"You do not know how to do it!" - A variant: "You're ill prepared," "You do not know how to sew,"

"You do not know how to raise children" ... and so on. Typically, such a pronounced strain of the accused. But, dear man, if a woman does not know how to cook - and this also happens - will not it be easier to buy her cookbook? Honestly, it is much cheaper than wasting time, the nerves in the scandal and actually destroy the family.



"Your son - Grade retention!" - As if it were only her son, a man has no relation to him. The question is - and why his father did not rear their child is not involved with him? Wife accused easy. But in this case, you need only itself to blame - for the lack of attention to her child.



It is possible to continue indefinitely the transfer of unsuccessful utterances, destroying happiness, decomposing family. But most importantly, it is necessary to remember - the scandals and abuse do not decide anything. Power - the last refuge of the weak. Solve the problem can only calm discussion. And - basic! - Adoption of a partner his equal.