Somehow, the traditional time for sex is considered to be night. Why, who do I answer? Most of us in the night falls down from exhaustion, in the head - only one desire: to bed, and ... sleep, sleep, and sleep. Do you not? So you all day in idleness. And if people from morning till night is busy earning money (a normal man does so, and most women - as well), then by 10 o'clock he had finished the entire stock of energy, he would have a detective look and ... - On the side. But do not get: after all, still need to marital duty to fulfill ... And here she is, our main problem: if you treat sex as to the execution of conjugal rights, he soon tired and bored with him and "second half"!
It is quite another thing when you get enough sleep, woke up a little earlier before the alarm clock, full of strength and energy, and the next - this curvy woman, rosy, rested .... Try! Once you start your affection, you will feel, how much more power you have and how much more you can do than in the evening. For such a cost even before going to bed, early to wake up! Of course, the ideal - in the morning when no need to rush anywhere, you can not wake up alarm clock, and when sleep enough. But such a luxury for most of us is allowed only during holidays or weekends. Well, the better to do sometimes the wife or husband surprises: an unexpected early morning sex adds cheer and give a good mood for the whole day! In addition, the whole day you'll have a mysterious look, shining eyes and a blissful smile on his face. Morning sex - a beautiful and safe replacement of strong coffee and other stimulants. Yes, another plus: "noted" in the morning, afternoon you can lie down without experiencing feelings of guilt for his fatigue. Although there who like: some like it in the morning so that evening they need to continue.
Disadvantages? Yes there is, as without them. First, you do not have time to brush your teeth (although you can and have time - it all depends on you). Secondly, if somewhat delayed morning sex, risk being left without breakfast. I think this is a small fee for unearthly pleasure - after all, have breakfast in the office or patience to dinner, and still be on the road to buy a muffin or a sandwich. Finally, the third - a morning sex so makes you grow soft and pliable, that darling wife will be able to easily persuade you to buy a new dress, shoes or rings, as you repent already half an hour. Well, you choose.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Is there? "Love without sex or sex without love"
Nevertheless, reciprocity must be even in the sensitive case - as a partnership in bed. Of course, adapt, and even fall in love with "just perfect lover, you can, but family life is not built only on sex, although there are those whom the family is not necessary - the benefit of their units.
Here's a more common problem encountered by both men and women - is frigidity or passivity is beloved.
Compare some of the cases of non-ideal pairs:
She does not like - he loves, with great sex. This couple will last long, because the sex did not detain the woman, and great sex with the unloved is always the case only at the beginning, then she will want to have warm-heartedness with love, which she herself wish to experience.
He loves - she "loves", but do not want to have sex, why not call out. Dear ladies, men may experience health problems on the background of your frigidity, in extreme cases, you are separating.
She likes - he likes to say that he loves and enjoys her love. These consumers also themselves and are in bed, preferring to pose rider, otherwise they are not something that is not strong, but applying any effort do not want. A woman only, and remains, that enjoy at least some affinity with the beloved, though she will get satisfaction from sex for long with this, though beloved, but still a passive lover.
She loves - He frankly did not like, but necessary to someone, when you want. Here, you'll never guess, because he can quickly satisfy their lust and, turning to the wall, sleep, or maybe the whole night to satisfy their desires, from which you will only be delighted.
On the problems of impotence - a separate conversation, here and help is needed otherwise, medical.
Perfect union is, of course, when both of the pair approached as a spiritual and physical terms, when they can not discuss the complex problems not only at work, but intimate. Of course, it is already high bar of confidence, but if you reach out to her together, presenting each other with mutual caresses, it might be expected to a strong family.
Indeed, many family problems arise because of misunderstandings and divergent views and interests of spouses, when one prefers to be just above, the second may be a "detriment to the rights, and then eventually just get used to it and sits down on his neck.
Through sex you can understand how a man relates to your relationship, but certainly there are exceptions, which should take an objective.
So what postures chosen by men? Something can be found on the Internet:
Horsewoman
Men usually only "yes" when a woman takes the initiative in their hands. If a couple in most cases the preferred rider position, it may indicate that the pair was a change of roles. Sexologists believe that a woman who manifested themselves in an active role, may unconsciously associate themselves with a man. In other words, afraid to lose control of his hands.
Some of the men themselves want to "eternal rest", straining only one important "muscle".
Conservator
He likes the missionary position. In itself, this posture is not a diagnosis. It is important to observe the other: if a partner so quickly reaches finale and leaves you, it means that he tends to quickly get what they want. If you received a copy of sluggishness, which is simply afraid to try alternative poses, just days before the time when you get bored - sex and the man with whom he was.
Well, if in a fit of passion, that was cast on the shoulders of his legs, "eye to eye", then it also has its own charm and women sometimes prefer this way.
Rear
Your man likes to keep things under control. It is likely that he just knows about the magic point G, where stimulation is most effective in this position. But according to some sources, so love to have sex by men who prefer not to see a woman in the eye.
But in fact - standing just more convenient.
Side by side
If a man loves to lay on your side during the act of love, it means he loves comfort and measured. We enjoy the slow-moving and unhurried development of relations.
And in general - in the morning is not even bad start with this posture morning sex.
All in one
If a man is not inclined to stop at a convenient position for him while watching your reactions and takes into account your preference is - you can be envied: your partner - the ideal lover.
Or just trying to please in every way, and for what purpose - one he knows.
Please remember that no matter what your union if you want serious and long-term relationship - talking about the problem, even if they do not, openly, without embarrassment, gently, and preferably after sex.
For example, ask about the blowjob, which you are doing, you feel perfectly, like whether he or a partner he would prefer to correct something.
Criticism of your and your partner should be seen only with the understanding and talking about it should be delicately. When we are silent, we gather in his dissatisfaction, because of which a partner may feel complexes. Decide together, and then your sex life will be improved each time.
Here's a more common problem encountered by both men and women - is frigidity or passivity is beloved.
Compare some of the cases of non-ideal pairs:
She does not like - he loves, with great sex. This couple will last long, because the sex did not detain the woman, and great sex with the unloved is always the case only at the beginning, then she will want to have warm-heartedness with love, which she herself wish to experience.
He loves - she "loves", but do not want to have sex, why not call out. Dear ladies, men may experience health problems on the background of your frigidity, in extreme cases, you are separating.
She likes - he likes to say that he loves and enjoys her love. These consumers also themselves and are in bed, preferring to pose rider, otherwise they are not something that is not strong, but applying any effort do not want. A woman only, and remains, that enjoy at least some affinity with the beloved, though she will get satisfaction from sex for long with this, though beloved, but still a passive lover.
She loves - He frankly did not like, but necessary to someone, when you want. Here, you'll never guess, because he can quickly satisfy their lust and, turning to the wall, sleep, or maybe the whole night to satisfy their desires, from which you will only be delighted.
On the problems of impotence - a separate conversation, here and help is needed otherwise, medical.
Perfect union is, of course, when both of the pair approached as a spiritual and physical terms, when they can not discuss the complex problems not only at work, but intimate. Of course, it is already high bar of confidence, but if you reach out to her together, presenting each other with mutual caresses, it might be expected to a strong family.
Indeed, many family problems arise because of misunderstandings and divergent views and interests of spouses, when one prefers to be just above, the second may be a "detriment to the rights, and then eventually just get used to it and sits down on his neck.
Through sex you can understand how a man relates to your relationship, but certainly there are exceptions, which should take an objective.
So what postures chosen by men? Something can be found on the Internet:
Horsewoman
Men usually only "yes" when a woman takes the initiative in their hands. If a couple in most cases the preferred rider position, it may indicate that the pair was a change of roles. Sexologists believe that a woman who manifested themselves in an active role, may unconsciously associate themselves with a man. In other words, afraid to lose control of his hands.
Some of the men themselves want to "eternal rest", straining only one important "muscle".
Conservator
He likes the missionary position. In itself, this posture is not a diagnosis. It is important to observe the other: if a partner so quickly reaches finale and leaves you, it means that he tends to quickly get what they want. If you received a copy of sluggishness, which is simply afraid to try alternative poses, just days before the time when you get bored - sex and the man with whom he was.
Well, if in a fit of passion, that was cast on the shoulders of his legs, "eye to eye", then it also has its own charm and women sometimes prefer this way.
Rear
Your man likes to keep things under control. It is likely that he just knows about the magic point G, where stimulation is most effective in this position. But according to some sources, so love to have sex by men who prefer not to see a woman in the eye.
But in fact - standing just more convenient.
Side by side
If a man loves to lay on your side during the act of love, it means he loves comfort and measured. We enjoy the slow-moving and unhurried development of relations.
And in general - in the morning is not even bad start with this posture morning sex.
All in one
If a man is not inclined to stop at a convenient position for him while watching your reactions and takes into account your preference is - you can be envied: your partner - the ideal lover.
Or just trying to please in every way, and for what purpose - one he knows.
Please remember that no matter what your union if you want serious and long-term relationship - talking about the problem, even if they do not, openly, without embarrassment, gently, and preferably after sex.
For example, ask about the blowjob, which you are doing, you feel perfectly, like whether he or a partner he would prefer to correct something.
Criticism of your and your partner should be seen only with the understanding and talking about it should be delicately. When we are silent, we gather in his dissatisfaction, because of which a partner may feel complexes. Decide together, and then your sex life will be improved each time.
List of phrases that can not speak for women
Dear men, I beg not to be offended! Do not knock yourself butted in the chest, saying: "Yes, I never ...», or" Yes, she is guilty ...», or "What can I do if she really like this ...». This article is written not to show you what you are bad. Moreover, I am sure that you really - very, very good. But maybe this article will help you a little better understanding of women. And your life will be happier and more harmonious.
So, what do not need to say a woman ...
"My mom makes the best" - mom better roasts chops, she better get salad, it is better than stroking his shirt and pants when she stroked, the needle does not diverge for weeks ... Cleaning the same apartment in my mother's performance - a song, and after its completion can not find a speck of dust, even in the darkest corner.
Instead of mom as an example sometimes cited sister, friend, ex-wife (honestly, this also happens!), The first school love ( "she sang, my heart froze as much") and so on. But more often it is better to make mom. And "my mom does best" - one of the worst phrases that kill the joy of family life.
This - the call for competition, which can not be won by definition. After all, children's performances differ uncritical and very firmly in the memory. Son may not remember that his mother did not know how to marinate mushrooms, but the wife - an excellent job with this task. It may simply discard the fact that his mother worked as a secretary part-time, while his wife took a senior position in a large company.
No, it does not call for criticism of parents. Never! I readily believe that my mother really does better. Especially if mom is her husband. But always tell my wife that she always makes everything worse - not the best way to achieve happiness in family life. Exhausted like a lose-lose competition, the wife may one day not to declare his darling: "If your mother does everything better, then go ka-you to her."
And then, my wife also has a mother. I can start arm wrestling: "My mom never added the minced garlic in!" - "And my mother said that garlic is useful for health, so it should add all the dishes!" Stalemate. And if at first "tug of war" is laughable, then over time it can lead to very serious problems of family relationships.
"Finally you're dressed in something decent!" - These phrases are not a rarity. I know a man who constantly tells his wife that she absolutely does not know how to dress. All his friends, he told me that his wife buys cheap clothes, which would seem to shy people milkmaid from a deaf, poor farm. "If I did not buy her clothes, it would be impossible to go near the street" - he said. The case ended in divorce.
If you are uttering such a phrase, want to make a woman a compliment, remember - this is not praise. This implies that before she dressed disgusting, and suddenly, by some chance, she finally managed to find a more or less decent clothes.
"When I took care of you, you were so beautiful!" - A phrase clearly indicates that the former beauty long gone. And what has come to replace ... eyes were not looking. This is - sorry about the past and lament the future. So remember an old anecdote: a woman about 45 early in the morning examining her face in the mirror. Seeing the wrinkles, bags under his eyes, looks back on her sleeping husband and angrily said: "So you fool, and we must!".
There are those who try to explain that yes, say something similar, but only to say, my wife something nice. That does not have such a "pleasant"! Why not say: "I look at you and admire: you are still 20!". Or: "When I took care of you, you were so beautiful, and has not changed!". Agree, is another matter.
"Where's dinner?" - A variant: "Why still do not wash your underwear?", "How long will I wait ironed shirt?". More offensive than it sounds just like when a woman at the hands of children, her own work, and she still has a house that is on it and washing and cooking, and cleaning. The man is extremely busy with their own work.
Instead of filing claims, you can easily understand - why the wife did not have time to do something. If the matter is that she does not know how to do it (and also happens like this, especially in young families), you should send it to the courses, at least to my mother. Crick and the requirements of the issue is not solved. If the problem is that it simply is loaded beyond measure, it is worth it to help and not to declare: "All reason enough time, one you never have time you can do.
"Where are you slipped my tie?" - A variant: a pack of cigarettes, a pen, a hammer, goggles, your favorite shirt ... Such a question immediately shows that the man at home doing nothing, just do not know where that lies. It only requires that cared for him. In the house he - as in a hotel where a maid, waiter, bringing order breakfast (room-service), there is a laundry, which is given to wash clothes ... However, the entire staff in one person, but it is even convenient - no need to go far to bring the claim. A little more, and he will leave his wife for tea.
Dear men, before angrily interest in his wife, which she tucked a hammer, think - and why it is generally touched before the hammer? After all, a hammer, in theory, men's work. Does not your fault that the hammer did not find it?
"What are you, stupid?" - Instead of answering any question. As kind: "What are you in the know", "none of your business", "Shut up, when not asked," Do not disgrace me in front of people. "
Actually, no one is obliged to know everything. And even if asked a question whose answer seems obvious to you, not the fact that it is equally obvious to others. Therefore, such a statement is "boorish vulgaris", ie, boorish ordinary, uncomplicated, and - most importantly - unnecessary.
Possible another option. It - really stupid. Happens. But what of that? Hence, it has attractions other than the intellect. For something a man guided by, offering her hand and heart. And, accusing it of stupidity, he primarily blames himself. If it's stupid, then who is he?
"You do not know how to do it!" - A variant: "You're ill prepared," "You do not know how to sew,"
"You do not know how to raise children" ... and so on. Typically, such a pronounced strain of the accused. But, dear man, if a woman does not know how to cook - and this also happens - will not it be easier to buy her cookbook? Honestly, it is much cheaper than wasting time, the nerves in the scandal and actually destroy the family.
"Your son - Grade retention!" - As if it were only her son, a man has no relation to him. The question is - and why his father did not rear their child is not involved with him? Wife accused easy. But in this case, you need only itself to blame - for the lack of attention to her child.
It is possible to continue indefinitely the transfer of unsuccessful utterances, destroying happiness, decomposing family. But most importantly, it is necessary to remember - the scandals and abuse do not decide anything. Power - the last refuge of the weak. Solve the problem can only calm discussion. And - basic! - Adoption of a partner his equal.
So, what do not need to say a woman ...
"My mom makes the best" - mom better roasts chops, she better get salad, it is better than stroking his shirt and pants when she stroked, the needle does not diverge for weeks ... Cleaning the same apartment in my mother's performance - a song, and after its completion can not find a speck of dust, even in the darkest corner.
Instead of mom as an example sometimes cited sister, friend, ex-wife (honestly, this also happens!), The first school love ( "she sang, my heart froze as much") and so on. But more often it is better to make mom. And "my mom does best" - one of the worst phrases that kill the joy of family life.
This - the call for competition, which can not be won by definition. After all, children's performances differ uncritical and very firmly in the memory. Son may not remember that his mother did not know how to marinate mushrooms, but the wife - an excellent job with this task. It may simply discard the fact that his mother worked as a secretary part-time, while his wife took a senior position in a large company.
No, it does not call for criticism of parents. Never! I readily believe that my mother really does better. Especially if mom is her husband. But always tell my wife that she always makes everything worse - not the best way to achieve happiness in family life. Exhausted like a lose-lose competition, the wife may one day not to declare his darling: "If your mother does everything better, then go ka-you to her."
And then, my wife also has a mother. I can start arm wrestling: "My mom never added the minced garlic in!" - "And my mother said that garlic is useful for health, so it should add all the dishes!" Stalemate. And if at first "tug of war" is laughable, then over time it can lead to very serious problems of family relationships.
"Finally you're dressed in something decent!" - These phrases are not a rarity. I know a man who constantly tells his wife that she absolutely does not know how to dress. All his friends, he told me that his wife buys cheap clothes, which would seem to shy people milkmaid from a deaf, poor farm. "If I did not buy her clothes, it would be impossible to go near the street" - he said. The case ended in divorce.
If you are uttering such a phrase, want to make a woman a compliment, remember - this is not praise. This implies that before she dressed disgusting, and suddenly, by some chance, she finally managed to find a more or less decent clothes.
"When I took care of you, you were so beautiful!" - A phrase clearly indicates that the former beauty long gone. And what has come to replace ... eyes were not looking. This is - sorry about the past and lament the future. So remember an old anecdote: a woman about 45 early in the morning examining her face in the mirror. Seeing the wrinkles, bags under his eyes, looks back on her sleeping husband and angrily said: "So you fool, and we must!".
There are those who try to explain that yes, say something similar, but only to say, my wife something nice. That does not have such a "pleasant"! Why not say: "I look at you and admire: you are still 20!". Or: "When I took care of you, you were so beautiful, and has not changed!". Agree, is another matter.
"Where's dinner?" - A variant: "Why still do not wash your underwear?", "How long will I wait ironed shirt?". More offensive than it sounds just like when a woman at the hands of children, her own work, and she still has a house that is on it and washing and cooking, and cleaning. The man is extremely busy with their own work.
Instead of filing claims, you can easily understand - why the wife did not have time to do something. If the matter is that she does not know how to do it (and also happens like this, especially in young families), you should send it to the courses, at least to my mother. Crick and the requirements of the issue is not solved. If the problem is that it simply is loaded beyond measure, it is worth it to help and not to declare: "All reason enough time, one you never have time you can do.
"Where are you slipped my tie?" - A variant: a pack of cigarettes, a pen, a hammer, goggles, your favorite shirt ... Such a question immediately shows that the man at home doing nothing, just do not know where that lies. It only requires that cared for him. In the house he - as in a hotel where a maid, waiter, bringing order breakfast (room-service), there is a laundry, which is given to wash clothes ... However, the entire staff in one person, but it is even convenient - no need to go far to bring the claim. A little more, and he will leave his wife for tea.
Dear men, before angrily interest in his wife, which she tucked a hammer, think - and why it is generally touched before the hammer? After all, a hammer, in theory, men's work. Does not your fault that the hammer did not find it?
"What are you, stupid?" - Instead of answering any question. As kind: "What are you in the know", "none of your business", "Shut up, when not asked," Do not disgrace me in front of people. "
Actually, no one is obliged to know everything. And even if asked a question whose answer seems obvious to you, not the fact that it is equally obvious to others. Therefore, such a statement is "boorish vulgaris", ie, boorish ordinary, uncomplicated, and - most importantly - unnecessary.
Possible another option. It - really stupid. Happens. But what of that? Hence, it has attractions other than the intellect. For something a man guided by, offering her hand and heart. And, accusing it of stupidity, he primarily blames himself. If it's stupid, then who is he?
"You do not know how to do it!" - A variant: "You're ill prepared," "You do not know how to sew,"
"You do not know how to raise children" ... and so on. Typically, such a pronounced strain of the accused. But, dear man, if a woman does not know how to cook - and this also happens - will not it be easier to buy her cookbook? Honestly, it is much cheaper than wasting time, the nerves in the scandal and actually destroy the family.
"Your son - Grade retention!" - As if it were only her son, a man has no relation to him. The question is - and why his father did not rear their child is not involved with him? Wife accused easy. But in this case, you need only itself to blame - for the lack of attention to her child.
It is possible to continue indefinitely the transfer of unsuccessful utterances, destroying happiness, decomposing family. But most importantly, it is necessary to remember - the scandals and abuse do not decide anything. Power - the last refuge of the weak. Solve the problem can only calm discussion. And - basic! - Adoption of a partner his equal.
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